Ouch My Heart Hurts_Part 1_The Freak Out

These past 3 weeks have been tough stuff for me. I've had many freak out moments. I am still hurting but I think that after the freak out stage, I can see a little clearer. I've noticed some things that I did that helped me. I've also noticed some things that I did that I regret in a major way. Please realize that I understand you are hurting - do not take my words lightly - these are all extremely hard to do - but YOU CAN DO IT!

When you are hurting and angry it is important to realize that your emotions are crazy and will cause you to do things the REAL you would NEVER do. Do not trust yourself in these moments.
Focus - here are some ways of handling the first phase.

   a. You're not a psycho - you are just hurting.

   b. Don't trust yourself - you need to go into a hiding for just a couple of days - you can do it.

   c. Put your phone away -  it's not an option right now - you're not thinking straight.

   d. Focus - it's not your job to make anything right or point any fingers right now.

   e. Write it All Down.

   f. Scream/Cry really loud in private - no longer than 10 minute sessions at a time.

   g. Turn off your sappy love/break up music. Seriously. Only happy music preferably music
       about how much God loves you.

   h. Don't make your feelings public - NO SOCIAL MEDIA. You are off the radar right now do not
      do anything that will draw attention to yourself.

   i. Stop talking. Remember you are in hiding. Don't talk/text/call/hangout with anyone unless they are family or a life long best of the best friends. You are going to want to be distracted by "new" people or friends you haven't hung out with in a while. This is running from your hurt and dragging innocent people into your pain - this can potentially create more strife, regret, and serious pain for you and others in the long run. STOP!

It's okay to have a freak out moment - just make sure it is with someone who is extremely close with you, otherwise you will cause regret.  Writing out your feelings will help your mind to become clear. I wrote to the people who wronged me. I wrote to God. I wrote everything and I didn't hold back. When I was done I felt slightly accomplished and that I had gotten everything out.

Remember this is just the initial stage - Follow these boundaries for at least the first 2 days...I have some other posts coming that will help you with the next stage!